About Me and My Approach

My approach to counseling is deeply informed by my own journey of transition, challenge, and self-discovery. Growing up as a closeted gay boy in a Latin immigrant family, I learned to hide parts of my identity at an early age. I suffered from what some call 'the good boy syndrome,' pushing myself to overachieve in sports, art, and academics to prove my worth and feel like I belonged despite the secrets I kept. At the time, this warped drive opened up many doors. It led me to Stanford University, where I pursued engineering and set a course for what I believed to be the conventional definition of success. It wouldn’t be until adulthood that I learned the consequences of keeping parts of myself secret.

The stress of environments like college and work led me to develop coping mechanisms that were unhealthy and ultimately unsustainable. Recognizing this was a pivotal moment, steering me towards a more authentic way of living. Over time, and especially during the reflective period brought on by the pandemic, I acknowledged that my career, while stable and successful, wasn’t fulfilling. This led to a significant decision to change course and pursue work that felt more meaningful – therapy.

Outside of my professional life, I’m happiest when I’m engaged in community. That looks like traveling, attending concerts, watching shows with friends, playing kickball with my team, or calling my family in California. And although I enjoy my routines, I live for adventure and new experiences.